10 Relationship Mistakes NOT To Make

Author:Jay Perry

Question #1 - Are you taking it seriously?

If you want your lover back, you need to be committed. You need a plan you can follow with conviction. If you doubt yourself, if you think you can win them back by doing what you\'ve always done, you might not see the results you want.

You might be offended about that. How can you NOT be taking it seriously you ask? Well it\'s one thing to THINK about doing something, it\'s another to actually DO it. If you find yourself hesitating to quit smoking, lose weight or try to curb a bad habit, when you KNOW it will make your partner happy, then do you really want them back bad enough

Question #2 - Are you willing to change?

Continuing on from the last question. Some people are too set in their ways to really change. Now there is a difference between changing just for the sake of pleasing someone else, and doing it for yourself.
You should NEVER change for someone else. That might seem contradictory
from what I have said above. But what I mean is, if there\'s a behaviour you KNOW is bad for you, but you keep doing it despite how much your ex hates it, then perhaps you are not as committed to getting them back as you first thought.
This section about willing to change goes deeper than a few bad behaviours. Are you willing to sacrifice for your partner? Are you willing to change not only for them but for yourself? For the sake of your relationship and for your happiness?
It certainly depends on what it is you need to change, which you will have to figure out from reading Section #1.

Question #3 - Do you have a positive self-image?

Do you feel on some level you\'re not good enough for your partner? That you don\'t deserve them? These beliefs will limit your ability to get them back.
Of course it might also mean you feel regretful for something you have done. I\'m not saying you should be overly cocky about the ability to get them back, but if your self-image was poor prior to them leaving you, then this is an area you may need to work on.
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If you are suffering from deep depression, stress or anxiety attacks, or you find yourself having suicidal thoughts, please do get professional help.

Question #4 - Are you paying attention to what your partner wants?

It\'s easy to fall into the victim mode. You\'re the one hurt, you\'re the one out of control, and you\'re the one desperate to get them back. You might want your partner to feel sorry for you, so your actions around them are also filled with self-pity.
This is very unattractive and will only want to make your partner wish they were somewhere else or with someone else.
Redirect your attention away from how much pain you are feeling right now and consider your partner\'s perspective. Have you hurt them equally as much as they have hurt you?

Question #5 - Are you taking action?

Doing is more powerful than talking. The best way to start changing yourself for the better is simply by doing small things for yourself everyday.
These things could be:

 Losing weight.
 Improving your finances.
 Being more grateful.
 Treating yourself and the people around you with respect.
 Taking steps each day to improve on your flaws.
Simply saying you\'ll change and things will be better does not equal being so. To show your ex you really are going to change, you need to start putting that change into action.

Question #6 - Are you confident?

People are attracted to those that are self-assured and confident in their own abilities. For men, if your girlfriend has left you, don\'t simply shower them with attention, gifts and \'I love Yous\' (unless your break up was due to a lack of those things), identify the root of the problem and go from there. If you apologize blindly without dealing with the core issues, your ex will see through your blatant persuasions.

Question #7 - Do you feel the need to panic?

Panicking at this stage will only do you a great deal of unnecessary damage. This means drunk dialing, constant text messaging, stalking and talking to their friends/family to try to get them back. These are all things to be avoided!
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Question #8 - Do you have misguided beliefs about gaining their trust and love back?

You can never EXPECT them to come back. Thinking that way will come through in your actions and this will only repel their desire to come back. Be genuine and loving to your partner but never expect to get the same in return.

Question #9 - Are you too proud?

You need to realize what is most important. Winning the battle or winning your love back. Swallow your pride and don\'t let a good thing go just because of your ego.

Question #10 - Are you drowning yourself in a great deal of self-abuse?

It is much too common for people to drown in their sorrow with alcohol, drugs or anything of that nature. This is NOT the time to start being self-destructive.
You need to be in the best shape you can be right now. This means eating healthy, exercising, getting out of the house etc. Substance abuse is not only bad for your body; it will only make you feel worse in the long-run.
(If you have an addiction to alcohol, or drugs, please refer here to get treatment and help.)
What if you\'ve made some of these mistakes already? Is it too late to get them back? I get asked this many times and often people believe they have made far too great of a mess of their situation to ever hope to get their ex back.
The truth is, all the mistakes you have made up to this point isn\'t as important as compared to the OVERALL scheme of things, AS LONG AS you start changing right now!
If we all believed our past equalled our futures then not much would ever get accomplished, and people would stop trying after their first blunder.
Now with that said, you shouldn\'t completely IGNORE the past or your past mistakes. Remember they are there to tell you something, that things need to change and you have the power to change them RIGHT NOW.
But now here is the big dilemma.
How do you change? How do you begin to not only stop making the mistakes but let your ex see you\'re not the person they broke up with, but the person they fell in love with instead?
The great news is, you\'re not the ONLY one with this problem. In fact, many
many folks out there are facing the exact same dilemma. The outcry became so big that those that DID figure it out decided to help.
Now yes, those self-help books DO help, however, what I found was, they focused too much on the SELF and not enough on the RELATIONSHIP.
Human existence is all about the relationships we have with others. Failure to maintain and grow those relationships will cause them to die. And in turn, we die along with it.
That\'s why it\'s so important to learn HOW to get your love relationship back in order. After all, what is more important than love?
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I hope you\'ve gained some value from this report and it has allowed you to reflect back on yourself and your relationship in a different way.

I\'ll talk to you soon,

Jay Perry
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About the Author
Jay Perry is a native New Yorker who is President of Jay Perry & Associates.  During his spare time, he writes about products he has personally used.  He is quoted as stating: 'If its crap, I don\'t even waste my readers time with it.'  Honest reviews are what keep him writing.
He is currently engaged to his girl Jenn.  He enjoys hiking, traveling and snow boarding during the long winter months.  His favorite food is Italian and he loves romantic ocean beach settings.